started when my second son was born and I wanted to work from home. I did not realize that it would turn into a tool to share my love with my friends and family. Seven years later, I work from home part-time and part-time with a small company, and I’m enjoying my life.  This did not happen overnight—it took some trials and tribulations to get to where I’m at today, but I’m here.

The trials began when I opened up a business that was unsuccessful. I was at my wit’s end and thought I had no place to go. I prayed and prayed to God that he would show me another path. He did. He showed me that I had options, and none of them was about hurting myself but instead loving myself.

God put on my heart to find someone to help restructure my business. This was the beginning of a journey that I never saw coming.   Although God knew, I didn’t realize that in order to be successful in my business, I had to be confident in myself. In order to be confident in myself, I had to love myself.

What did it mean to love myself? First I had to stop blaming others and realize that I allowed people to treat me the way I had been treated. It wasn’t anyone’s fault but my own.  I realized that I can’t change other people, I can only change myself.

Examples of blaming others

Genesis 3:12-13 ESV

The man said, “The woman whom you gave to be with me, she gave me fruit of the tree, and I ate.” Then the Lord God said to the woman, “What is this that you have done?” The woman said, “The serpent deceived me, and I ate.”

Do you see how Adam is suggesting that God gave him the woman? Do you see how Eve is blaming the serpent?

She blames the serpent instead of just saying she allowed the serpent to deceive her, so therefore she ate the apple.  They both blamed it on someone else.

My excuse for my business failing was because people didn’t want to pay me enough for my services. I realized that I didn’t love or have the confidence in myself to charge what my time was worth.

The man in the mirror by Michael Jackson

I’m starting with the man in the mirror

I’m asking him to change his ways

And no message could have been any clearer

If you wanna make the world a better place

(If you wanna make the world a better place)

Take a look at yourself, and then make a change

Recognize when you blame others throughout the day. Ask yourself, How did I allow this to happen to me? How can I prevent this from happening again?

Your success at business, friendship, love, sports – just about anything you try – is largely determined by how you see yourself.  Your unhappiness is something you choose.  So, you’re thinking, No one chooses to be unhappy. Well, maybe not – but you have to consciously choose to be happy, self-confident, and successful.

I hope you will continue on this journey with me.

“You are beautiful. I know because I made you.” – God

Proverbs 19:8 To acquire wisdom is to love oneself; people who cherish understanding will prosper.